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作者：若迷 在 驴鸣镇 发贴, 来自 http://www.hjclub.org
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This is the most heart-wrenching story I have ever heard! I cried my eyes out after seeing this tonight! How in the world can our legal system be so misconstrued? That poor child will now always have trust issues with people and the legal system because of this. You can not take a child away from the only parents that she has ever known. The Hes made the decision to give her up. They should have to live with that decision. There are no "take backs"! Hello...!!!!! If Anna Mae's biological parents REALLY loved her and cared for her, they NEVER would have taken her away from the people who raised her. That was a SELFISH thing to do. No doubt orchestrated completely by Mr. He, I am sure! And now he has abandoned the family! The Tennessee court system was WRONG!!!!! Our great country should NEVER have allowed such a travesty! I am ashamed of my country for allowing this to happen. The Hes used the Bakers for their money!!! All the Hes wanted was for someone else to foot the bill for their daughter's medical needs! How can this country allow these foreigners to come over here and manipulate us like that?????!!!!! I am truly ashamed for country and disgusted with it at the same time!!! The Bakers should appeal to the President and the President should demand that child be returned to her rightful home...America and the Bakers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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vamesj Feb-17
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I think it is appalling that vamesj thinks Anna Mae's biological parents have no rights to have custody of their daughter. The agreement between the Hes and Bakers never was intended to be a permanent arrangement. How dare you accuse them of using them for their money, the Bakers took advantage of the situation. Probably you think since they're American they have more rights to her, well you're wrong. Even if Mr. He eventually left the family doesn't justify the Bakers retaining custody of a child that is not theirs, who still has living and willing parents.
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blue19821222 Feb-17
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A heartwrenching story all the way around.
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monilove42 Feb-17
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"Casey also says all attempts for replacements have been denied by the American consulate. When contacted by ABC News, the State Department said it had no comment."This young girl is an American citizen is she not? Born in the USA and lived here 9 years at least. WHY then is she being denied a passport. Due to the circumstances and the grief and emotional trauma these children are still having, I think frequent visits between the family's will only help the situation..Is there not anyone in our government who can intervene?
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sister1964 Feb-17
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This is a unfortunate predicament for poor Anna Mae. i think the adults are at fault here, especially the He's. It is completely stupid and irresponsible to ask other people to raise your child and then ask for the child back when the hard work has been done raising the child.. and then taking that child to a whole new foreign culture and create a lot of complicated human emotions for all parties involved that will never go away. The He's are irresponsible people. the Bakers, although loving people, should have been smart enough to think of the future consequences for Anna Mae or maybe make a permanent adoption deal, and I think the tennessee court made the wrong decision, Anna Mae could have a wonderful life with the Bakers, and now her life is potentially ruined, being a child of a poor single parent in China. How sad for Anna Mae. The mother Casey is a dumb, selfish, woman who does not think about the life of her child that she claims to love. Poor Anna Mae.
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tiffyjade Feb-17
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tiffyjade, you have the facts wrong (thanks to the selective information that the ABC news report gave). The Bakers are full of lies, even now, years after they lost the case. They lost the case for a reason. The He's never "gave her up" and never asked the Bakers to raise her until she was 18--another lie by the Bakers that went unchallenged by ABC--there is no evidence of any kind of permanent agreement. The only documented evidence was of a temporary agreement where the He's agreed to temporary foster care with full visitation rights and every intention that Anna would be returned to them as soon as they were back on their feet. They were visiting her regularly until the Bakers changed their mind and said, "Hey! We want to keep your baby, please go away now." That forced the Hes to go to court and ask for Anna back, and the court battle went on for an addition SIX YEARS! The battle began before Anna had even turned TWO YEARS OLD. The Bakers should be in jail for what they did to Anna. If you want to adopt a child, you adopt a child legally. You do not fight for EIGHT YEARS to adopt a child who is not available for adoption. You do not illegally keep that child from seeing her real parents for EIGHT YEARS to make sure that any reunion would be absolutely traumatizing to her. And during a custody battle, both sides should have visitation with the child and be able to maintain a relationship with the child, so that regardless of who "wins" custody, the child is not surprised or traumatized. But what the Bakers did was to ensure maximum trauma to Anna--and to their own daughter Aimee. Casey is neither dumb nor selfish, nor is she a poor parent. How do you think she can afford tuition for her children? Did they look like they were living in a shack? Casey has the support of her family and is able to provide well for her children. Anna has been given a tough hand, but what was good about the ABC report is that it showed she IS adjusting and is doing better. Hopefully she will keep on doing better and will be able to forgive the Bakers for what they did to her one day, if she ever fully understands what they did. The Bakers lost because they wronged Anna and the He family. The only wrong thing that the court did was taking so long to make the right decision.
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jahelle Feb-17
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To jahelle: I doubt that Casey can provide well for her children. Chinese media reported a year ago that she could not afford the tuition for the boarding school, and her three children had stay at home for a while. After the article was published, the parent of one of her kids' classmates paid for the tuition, anonymously. And do you think Casey and her kids will be so lucky every year? I doubt it. And you may wonder why she has to send her kids to an expensive boarding school? It's all because as American citizens, the kids cannot enjoy the "free" education in China, according to Chinese law. So you can imagine that as the kids grow up, she has to pay more and more for their tuition and living costs. I am sure this is one of the reasons that she wants to send Mae back to the US. She just cannot afford three kids in China!
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jackyjngwn Feb-18
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Anna Mae He is one of many victims of a corrupt and mismanaged judicial and legal system. It is appalling that it took so long to resolve a custody matter between the real parents (not merely "biological" as the article calls them) and the foster parents. It might have been nicer for the Bakers to set up a trust fund for Anna Mae's care rather than spending money on attorneys to take her away from her parents. It is not too late for them to do that, Fortunately, Anna Mae's suffering helped bring about changes in the law, so her suffering has not been entirely in vain. U.S. Immigration laws need humanitarian exceptions or alternatives to mandatory deportation, so families in the He's situation are not forced to leave the country. Rather than deportation, community service might be a better option. Hopefully, Anna Mae and Casey can bond and become survivors together as they face injustice and oppression on both sides of the globe.J.K. Roberts
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TamarIV Feb-18
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Jahelle: Yes, perhaps we as the public and viewers of this story on ABC news do not know truth or the exact facts of the case. I think it's safe for me to say that I think every person will agree with me that the ones who are suffering are the children (both Anna Mae and her American sister, Aimee). All the adults that are involved in this case( both side parents, attorneys, officials and others) Did any of them think about how their actions affect the children? I think it's irresponsible to put any child through this type of confusion of family juggling and then having to deal with cross cultural upbringing in addition. I feel sad for Anna Mae that her chance for a good life in America was taken away. It's the children who are the suffering. This is all that I am trying to say. Thank You!.And why did the Chinese father suddenly abandoned his family in China when he fought so hard to get his daughter back. Anyone, please comment.
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tiffyjade Feb-18
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The Dad had an affair and got divorced with the Mom. He then lost of his job in university and disappeared. This guy is not a good man. Many suspected that he fought for his daughter just to stay in the U.S.
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jackyjngwn Feb-18
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Oh boy- here we go again! Some viewers have lost sight of the big picture. The Bakers refused to return baby Anna Mae when the Hes were on their feet. The Bakers had agreed to be foster parents- not adoptive parents. The Hes never gave up their right to parent Anna. They did, however, love their daughter enough to recognize that they needed help with their new child and trusted that the Bakers would honor this understanding. The Bakers were legally and ethically irresponsible. They refused to allow the Hes to visit their daughter, thwarted attempts to cooperate with the Hes in any respect, and worst of all, used our incredible legal system to their advantage. The Hes lost years of love and interaction with their daughter due to the Baker's selfish need to adopt another child. They gambled with a child's heart and well-being to suit their own desires. Sadly, Anna and the Hes paid the price for the Bakers' irresponsible decisions. Yes, it is sad that the Hes have not stayed married, but the pressures of years of legal and cultural battles no doubt took their toll. Most marriages could not endure such stress. Finally, even though Anna now has only her mom, please remember that we do not summarily take children out of single parent homes in this or any other country nor do we decide who is more fit to raise a child and assign children to those we think or judge to be best. I am saddened to think that some viewers believe the Bakers 'deserve' Anna. They essentially kidnapped her, refused to return her to her parents or foster that relationship, and then cried crocodile tears when they realized Anna was truly the Hes' child. The Bakers never had any true moral or legal basis for adopting Anna and set this entire scenario into motion with their selfish, self-righteous decisions.
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baseballjan Feb-18
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jackyjngwn: Jack He's dedication to getting Anna back was remarkable, even as I recognize that his actions once in China are disappointing. But the argument that he fought to get Anna back in order to try and stay in the US is absurd. They already had custody of two other children (born after Anna) who were US citizens--and that did not allow them to stay in the US. If they had gotten Anna back as they had repeatedly asked before she turned 2, she would have been returned and they would have gone back to China. Getting custody back and the issue of staying in the US were always two separate legal issues that had nothing to do with each other. Only someone entirely ignorant of immigration law would make a claim, or someone who just believed the hysterical lies of the Bakers and their lawyer, Larry Parrish. As for Casey and whether she can take care of her children. She provides the minimum that they need, that's obvious and the most important thing. Whether or not she can always afford to pay for boarding school doesn't matter, because as US citizens, her children will be able to return to the US when they are age 18 (regardless of the issue of the missing passports) for education and employment, an opportunity that other Chinese citizens don't have. And you did not understand the report--she says she wants to send Anna back for a visit, that's all. What are you arguing, anyway? I know there are other families in China who have more than one child and cannot afford to pay the fines/tuition to send their second child to school. So perhaps the US should sweep in and take all of those children back to the US and give them to American families who can give them all the education they want.
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jahelle Feb-18
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tiffyjade, I am much more in agreement with your second comment. Yes, the children did suffer. Where we differ is that you think that the blame can be spread across all parties, when unfortunately, if you read the Wikipedia entry or State supreme court ruling, you will learn differently. The Bakers had all the power. But they never stopped trying to adopt a little girl who was not available for adoption. The Hes never stopped asking for her back. The Bakers did everything they could to sabotage any reunion with the Hes, including making Anna afraid of China and Chinese people (sad but true). What would have been the correct remedy? Perhaps for the Bakers to accept that they were not going to win an impossible case, and to have willingly returned Anna to the Hes when they first asked, when she was age 1, or when she was age 2, or when she was age 5, etc. So the Bakers, and the slow court system that the Bakers manipulated, are to blame here. Yet another remedy would have been for custody to be returned to the Hes, with visitation for the Bakers, but since the Hes had overstayed their visa, they had to leave the US after the battle was over. So you can blame the INS here. The option which you probably prefer is that Anna remained with the Bakers and Aimee. But we have laws in this country regarding adoption. You cannot adopt a child who was never placed for adoption. No exceptions. Finally, Anna is clearly adapting. Look up at some of the old reports. While in the care of the Bakers, she identified herself as a Mexican and denied her Chinese heritage. She had no bond with Casey or her siblings at the beginning. But now she does. She is adapting, looks good, and I hope she continues to get better. She is wise beyond her years for recognizing that life has been a bit fair and a bit unfair to her. Good luck to her--she deserves it.
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jahelle Feb-18
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